Greens Farms Academy is a PreK-12, coed school in Westport, CT

Coyle Scholar


"How to Raise Successful Kids — Without Over-parenting"

January 26, 2021
7 p.m. (Virtual Event)

Join the Greens Farms Academy Coyle Scholar series for an evening with the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult.

In her highly acclaimed talk Julie Lythcott-Haims, who served as the Dean of Freshmen and Student Advising at Stanford University for over a decade, draws on research, on conversations with admissions officers, educators, and employers, and on her own insights to examine the ways in which over-parenting harms children, their stressed-out parents, and society at large.

This next Coyle Scholar will offer practical strategies that underline the importance of allowing children to make their own mistakes and develop the resilience, resourcefulness, and inner determination necessary for success. This virtual talk is open to the public and the link will be shared closer to the event. Watch her TED Talk here, learn more about her here, and we look forward to joining Julie on her "journey to raising the next generation of strong, resilient adults."

Earlier in the day, at 9:30 a.m., Lythcott-Haims will deliver her talk "What it Means to be Black in White Spaces" to our GFA Upper School students and faculty and staff. GFA parents will be invited to join this presentation virtually. In Lythcott-Haims' Real American: A Memoir, she writes a powerful and award-winning reflection of identity, belonging, and community, and details growing up Black and biracial in white spaces. She will share how she found self-acceptance through the healing power of community. Her story is deeply personal, but its message is universal: people from marginalized communities will recognize echoes of their own experiences, and allies will learn how they can better show up, listen, and advocate for others.

While her cross-country travel has come to a halt recently, Lythcott-Haims has been busy helping parents cope with COVID-19 and our new reality offering free live webinars titled "How are you BEING with All that is Occurring?" The virtual workshops tackle "how to listen consciously, reduce drama, and create a win-win in times of stress and conflict."

How to Raise and Adult book cover


What is Coyle Scholar?

James M. Coyle Endowed Visiting Scholars Program
This program, begun in 1996, brings to Greens Farms Academy at least twice each year inspiring, prominent individuals of scholarly and contemporary interest, public servants, academicians, people of letters, or other public figures who have made a sustained and lasting contribution to education defined in its broadest sense. Each visiting scholar is invited to spend the day at the School, attend classes, and work with our students. After a reception, the visiting scholar delivers a public lecture for the community-at-large.

Past Coyle Scholars